Struggling with Intimacy in My Relationship

[luciddreams]

I hope you’re all doing well. I’ve been in a relationship for a while now, and I’m starting to feel some concerns that I’d love to get your perspectives on.

My boyfriend is an amazing person in many ways, but I can't help but feel like there’s something a bit off. There are times when I feel like he’s not fully present or engaged, which has been affecting our intimacy. It’s not just physical intimacy, though that’s part of it; it’s more about our emotional connection. There are moments when I crave closeness, but it feels like there’s a wall between us.

I understand that everyone has their struggles, and he certainly has his share. I want to support him, but I also worry about us and how this might affect the relationship long-term. I’ve tried talking to him about it, but it often leads to awkward conversations that don’t seem to change much.

Has anyone else been through something similar? How did you approach the situation? I don’t want to give up on what we have, but I’m feeling a bit lost right now.

Thanks for reading. I appreciate any thoughts you might have!

[ScarsFromThePast]

How long have you been together?

[luciddreams]

Many years now

[ScarsFromThePast]

Hi there! It sounds like you’re in a tough spot. It’s great that you want to support him, but it’s just as important to take care of your own needs. Have you thought about setting some boundaries around the conversations you have? Sometimes, creating a safe space to talk can really help both of you feel more connected.

[Takamaka]

Hey! I can relate to what you’re going through. Sometimes, a person’s struggles can really impact a relationship. Have you thought about suggesting couples therapy? It might provide a platform for both of you to express yourselves in a constructive way. It could help him feel supported and also improve your intimacy.

[luciddreams]

He refused regular therapy when his doctor recommended it.

[flamewolf]

Hi! Communication is key in these situations, but I get that it can be hard to bring it up without it getting awkward. Maybe try addressing smaller issues first before diving into the bigger ones about intimacy? It can help build trust and make it easier to talk about the more sensitive topics later on.

[luciddreams]

He won't talk about it at all.

[Sweet Dreams Are Made of These]

I totally resonate with what you're saying. It’s really hard when someone we care about is struggling, and we feel that impact on our relationship. Just know that you’re not alone in this! Whatever happens, it’s important to prioritize your emotional well-being too. Sending you positive vibes!

[Anchorman]

Hi! I’ve been in a similar situation before, and it can feel really isolating. In my experience, being open about your feelings led to some breakthroughs. Once I expressed how I felt, my partner started to open up about his struggles. It took time, but it really helped strengthen our bond. Just hang in there!

[luciddreams]

It's been years of not getting better.

[Idan Keys]

I struggle too

[Aaron]

Not to give you a lame guy answer, but if it's a medical thing, he can take pills for that.

[yellowbanana]

Aaron,
Actually not bad advice. Some guys need the boost.

[George WB]

Can he specify if it's emotional or physical?