The Unattainable Person

[Perfectly Imperfect]

How do you handle with people you want in your life, but for whatever reason they will never be in your life the way you want them to?

Maybe it's a celebrity.

Maybe it's a love interest that's already married.

Maybe it's a friend who's far away.

Whatever the situation, how do you deal with it?

[metrojersey85]

It’s all about focusing on what you can control. If it’s a celebrity, just enjoy their work from afar. If it’s a friend who's far away, keep the lines of communication open without expecting too much. Invest your energy in relationships that are mutual and fulfilling.

[teteri66]

When I notice I’m investing too much in someone who can’t reciprocate, I try to distance myself a bit and redirect my energy toward healthier connections.

[Hungry Hungry Hippo]

When I realize someone can’t be in my life the way I want, I make it a point to explore new friendships and relationships.

[skeleton]

For me, writing has been incredibly therapeutic. Whether it’s journaling my thoughts or expressing myself through poetry or stories, I find it easier to cope with my feelings and find closure in those situations.

[Volunteer Firefighter]

I try to shift my perspective on the person. Instead of focusing on what I can’t have, I remind myself of the positive impact they’ve had on my life, even if it’s limited. It helps to treasure those limited moments and appreciate the lessons learned.

[CrazyAgent]

It’s okay to feel disappointed about unfulfilled desires. I allow myself to feel those emotions without judgment—they're perfectly valid. Once I acknowledge them, I can start to move forward and look for new experiences.

[Takamaka]

I’ve found that talking about these feelings with close friends can help.

[Charlie B Goode]

When I find myself attached to someone who can't give me what I want, I turn that energy inward. I work on my hobbies, set personal goals and try to forget about them.

[metrojersey85]

Sometimes, understanding why that person can’t be in my life in the way I want them to gives me peace.

[Takamaka]

Whether it’s circumstances, commitments, or life choices, recognizing the ‘why’ can help me let go of that yearning too

[Ʈiffanƴ]

I try to focus on gratitude. Instead of fixating on what I lack, I remind myself of the people and experiences that bring me joy.

[Tea-Rex]

I keep them as close as possible for as long as possible and take what I can get.

[Apricky]

I get really anxious about it and then I try to forget about them if we can't talk at all. Otherwise, I take what I can get.

[Keiphus]

I keep them as close as possible and that's it.