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Post by Ʈiffanƴ on Apr 18, 2020 19:08:46 GMT -5
How would you handle a situation where you felt like someone you've known all your life has been lying to you and emotionally manipulating you to get things they want from you?
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Post by George WB on Apr 18, 2020 19:10:43 GMT -5
I would feel badly, but also confused. It depends who that person is to me, what they wanted, and how long I knew them.
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Post by stardust on Apr 18, 2020 19:11:32 GMT -5
It happens to me too much. Thy guy who does it to me always somehow gets me to apologize to him. It's mind-blowing how much of his stuff I've tolerated over the years.
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Post by Ʈiffanƴ on Apr 18, 2020 19:12:00 GMT -5
^Yes I'm the one who ends up crying and apologizing too. It's like I want him in my life so badly that I take fault for everything.
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Post by stardust on Apr 18, 2020 19:12:29 GMT -5
Ask yourself why you keep doing that to yourself. Do you hope he'll change? Do you benefit at all from the one-sided relationship?
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Post by Ʈiffanƴ on Apr 18, 2020 19:12:55 GMT -5
I benefit from the good times, but lately, it seems like I have to BEG for the good times to return, like I have to EARN his affection.
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Post by stardust on Apr 18, 2020 19:13:31 GMT -5
At least you recognize that it's wrong and it's manipulative. No one should hold your feelings hostage or tell you that you need to "earn" their being nice to you. That's not how friendships work.
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Post by Ʈiffanƴ on Apr 18, 2020 19:14:00 GMT -5
Right. And as much as I don't want to lose a friend, I think I need to start telling myself that this "friendship" is very toxic to my health.
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Post by stardust on Apr 18, 2020 19:14:40 GMT -5
That's ultimately your decsion. You have to decide whether or not you want him to stay in your life. But continuing to let him hurt you isn't a good way to go about this.
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Post by Topanga on Apr 18, 2020 21:26:23 GMT -5
Only you can decide what you want to tolerate and what you don't. It sounds to me like you don't want this in your life.
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Post by Little Cory on Apr 18, 2020 21:58:34 GMT -5
I encourage you to have the courage to let go of negative energy, even if that means gaining the disapproval of someone whose approval isn't needed in your life.
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Post by Absolutely on Apr 18, 2020 23:28:20 GMT -5
I hope things get better. Love should never be transactional. It should be given to you freely.
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Post by Mr. White on Apr 19, 2020 5:18:40 GMT -5
Some people do that and I"m sorry you have to experience that from someone. You deserve better.
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Post by browneyedsugar on Apr 19, 2020 5:22:10 GMT -5
It's not your fault. You didn't do anything wrong. You're just an honest person and you care about your friend.
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Post by Ʈiffanƴ on Apr 19, 2020 5:25:21 GMT -5
Thank you everyone. I'm very conflicted. I don't want to cut ties. I wish things were back to the way they were.
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