Support

[Hungry Hungry Hippo]

Do you ever just wish you had some more supportive people in your life? I think most of my friends are so consumed with tv/internet that they never want to talk about real things. I mean my IRL friends. My online friends are good listeners.

[Sei Soldier]

Yes. It would be nice to have more supportive conversations in person. But everyone is glued to their phones.

[Hungry Hungry Hippo]

Sei Soldier
How do you handle your emotions when all your want is support?

[Sei Soldier]

I'm direct. "Are we hanging out or are you on your phone?" If they can't listen to me, I just go home.

My online friends provide me with a lot more support too.

[Desired Apathy]

The way people socialize has completely changed. I have almost no face-to-face conversations of value. It might be better if you talk about things online because you know you can get support there.

[Hungry Hungry Hippo]

Yes, I know I can get amazing support here, but sometimes I want to FEEL like someone cares. You guys can't visit me in the ER or come to my funeral. You know?

[Desired Apathy]

I do understand you. All my friends are in my computer now too and I have morbid thoughts about hospitals and funerals. I DO know how you feel.

[MzPanik]

For me it's not so much the hanging out as it is I wish they would actually give my problems and whatnot the validation it deserves. It seems like everyone else is so quick to dump their problems on other people, but when I reach out to someone because I've got a lot on my mind at the time, I'm often told to quit whining, quit bitching, it's not that bad. I get a lot of toxic positivity, all that #PositiveVibes bs, which is a piss poor excuse for someone's lack of an ability to be more compassionate. I don't have compassionate friends. They only want to hear from me when it's convenient for them.

*sigh*

[Yankeefan1955]

Relationships need to go both ways. Give and take. They can't be one sided. It is helpful if you have relationships like that in person. I'm sorry if you don't.

[Hungry Hungry Hippo]

I do appreciate "good vibes" but only when the person is sincere. Don't have hashtag it to me. Actually pray for me.

[Nixola]

I think it's easier to get that kind of support online (in some places) because you have people who are willing to read long blocks of text. I know it's not what you want to hear, but I got used to not expecting much from some of my friends. I have a handful who will really listen and others who only come around when they need me.

[The Mrs.]

Yeah it's hard to find people who will really listen. It's easy to find people who want to unload though. I find that people just act like they're busy all the time even when they aren't. I am here for you to read and help in any way that I can.

[Cheap Trixie]

*Nods* But I've gotten used to my support team be online. Honestly, I'm fine with it now. I get more thoughtful responses than I ever do from texts from people I know IRL.

[Fɑtɑl Fɑst Forwɑrd]

If I could break everyone's social media accounts, I think they'd listen to me more.

[greenoctopus]

A lot of people think it only works one way. Relationships need to work both ways. We all need to be ears as well as lemon mouths.