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Post by Great Divide on Mar 26, 2019 5:54:44 GMT -5
OK, so another psychological debate I have with myself is confrontation vs. suppression.
However, I almost always view confrontation as disrespectful because sometimes "getting over it" just makes things go away. Why the need to pour acid onto an already burning wound? I think it's OK to weigh the pros and cons and then decide. Not everyone needs to be told off.
Agree or disagree?
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Post by Something Loud on Mar 26, 2019 10:10:25 GMT -5
You are right in that not everything needs confrontation.
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Post by Kevin Kurson on Mar 26, 2019 17:58:35 GMT -5
You are right in that not everything needs confrontation. i'm kind of easy going. No need to start a riot. |
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Post by Holden on Mar 26, 2019 20:13:36 GMT -5
I generally don't blow up until someone has abused me for months. I keep things inside for a long time.
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Post by ~apple~ on Mar 26, 2019 21:56:23 GMT -5
There are situations where you can ignore something and avoid confrontation.
There are times where you are forced to confront people.
Knowing the difference is what is most important.
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Post by deathstar on Mar 27, 2019 5:55:18 GMT -5
This is situational. It's not something where I would ever say, "ALWAYS CONFRONT THEM" because thats not always the answer.
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Post by Corey Lorenzo on Mar 27, 2019 6:09:03 GMT -5
Depends solely on the situation. I'll let a lot of things go as it's not worth it to fight with people.
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Post by rz1198x on Mar 27, 2019 6:09:27 GMT -5
i fight with everyone all the time, i rage, yell, scream, and don't talk to people for months at a time.
i'm working on that.
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Post by Corey Lorenzo on Mar 27, 2019 6:09:35 GMT -5
^Where does that get you?
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Post by rz1198x on Mar 27, 2019 6:09:58 GMT -5
something inside me explodes when i am mad. i first blow up and then I block them from everything I own.
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Post by ThreadKilla on Mar 27, 2019 6:11:41 GMT -5
Some people think they are right all the time. So, I don't fight those battles. I'm usually more vocal when I know it'll be constructive.
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Post by zachansonlover on Mar 27, 2019 15:05:42 GMT -5
I'm more about forgetting and moving on, but I don't let the same person screw me twice. I just remove myself. I don't need to tell them off.
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Post by Parched on Mar 27, 2019 16:08:37 GMT -5
There are situations where you can ignore something and avoid confrontation. There are times where you are forced to confront people. Knowing the difference is what is most important. I agree. Not every situation can be handled the same. |
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Post by A Dream Is A Wish (Old) on Mar 28, 2019 1:51:05 GMT -5
Keep in mind that confrontation doesn’t always have to be super emotionally charged and aggressive. It can be something as small and simple as someone wanting to see one movie and you saying you’d rather see a different movie and you two finding a compromise. It doesn’t always have to be aggressive.
My husband has problems confronting me for a long time and it almost destroyed our marriage. He wouldn’t say his opinions on things ever if they disagreed with mine and started thinking I didn’t care about what he felt about anything, even though he never told me how he felt and it lead to so much resentment between us for awhile that we could have gotten divorced over it.
But he went to therapy and learned to have opinions and things and things are a lot better because of it. People who never argue or disagree ever are actually horrible people to be around. I’d rather someone talk to me about what they are feeling BEFORE they are exploding with rage.
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Post by Parched on Mar 28, 2019 5:49:11 GMT -5
Keep in mind that confrontation doesn’t always have to be super emotionally charged and aggressive. It can be something as small and simple as someone wanting to see one movie and you saying you’d rather see a different movie and you two finding a compromise. It doesn’t always have to be aggressive. My husband has problems confronting me for a long time and it almost destroyed our marriage. He wouldn’t say his opinions on things ever if they disagreed with mine and started thinking I didn’t care about what he felt about anything, even though he never told me how he felt and it lead to so much resentment between us for awhile that we could have gotten divorced over it. But he went to therapy and learned to have opinions and things and things are a lot better because of it. People who never argue or disagree ever are actually horrible people to be around. I’d rather someone talk to me about what they are feeling BEFORE they are exploding with rage. True. Total lack of controntation will turn someone into a doormat. |
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