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Post by Raven on Feb 9, 2019 6:57:28 GMT -5
What do you do when friends disappear? How much do you keep trying to save the relationship? How one-sided can it be before you give up? I reach out endlessly with some people and it's so hopeless. I mean they'll give me hope for a week, but then they stop talking again.
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Post by domnicksee on Feb 9, 2019 8:17:27 GMT -5
You never have to give up on people, but you also don't want to pressure them. Some people just want space every so often, and they'd prefer to disappear than tell you they need space.
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Post by Tampaboy19N on Feb 9, 2019 8:18:15 GMT -5
I speculate it has nothing to do with you and has more to do with their personality. Maybe they are scared of getting close. Maybe they do this to everyone. You can always reach out, send well wishes on holidays, but don't take it personally if they don't answer.
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Post by Raven on Feb 9, 2019 8:45:39 GMT -5
Yeah I'm not really blaming myself. It's just so depressing when people seem to open the door and then close it so quickly.
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Post by SuperShark on Feb 9, 2019 8:46:39 GMT -5
I've had friends and family who've done this. Some people just seem to hold grudges or just don't have the time to maintain relationships. It's odd because I always want to try. I send out emails and texts. Some people won't answer for months at a time. I don't bother asking "why" anymore.
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Post by something2believe on Feb 9, 2019 13:29:41 GMT -5
Yes. It makes me upset, but I also focus on the friends who do stick around.
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Post by ny152 on Feb 9, 2019 13:31:19 GMT -5
A lot of friends have walked away and disappeared. I've learned that it isn't me. They have their own issues and sometimes you have to let people go.
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Post by Takamaka on Feb 9, 2019 13:55:28 GMT -5
It really hurts so much, but in time, you realize what you have matters more than what you lost.
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Post by ScarsFromThePast on Feb 9, 2019 17:33:56 GMT -5
Many friends have done this, but I can't stop people from leaving. Begging people does no good. Friendships need to have effort from all parties for them to work.
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Post by flamewolf on Feb 9, 2019 17:34:36 GMT -5
For me, it's been more of falling out of touch with people. High school came and went. So did college. So did jobs. But if people found me online and wanted to chat, I'd be all for it.
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Post by cloud on Feb 9, 2019 17:35:33 GMT -5
It's OK to hold onto people, but if certain people keep betraying you, don't blame yourself. You can't force anyone to stay in your life.
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Post by TheOcelot1978 on Feb 9, 2019 17:36:41 GMT -5
It's normal, common, and it happens. I don't have answers either. I don't know why some people left, wanted so much space that they have no one now. Makes no sense to me, but I guess they are happy.
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Post by cloud on Feb 9, 2019 17:36:57 GMT -5
^Some people are always on the run from something.
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Post by TheOcelot1978 on Feb 9, 2019 17:37:14 GMT -5
 And they don't see that they love they want is right in front of them. |
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Post by cloud on Feb 9, 2019 17:37:25 GMT -5
You are so right Ocelot.
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