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Post by Esther on May 15, 2017 7:04:42 GMT -5
So, a woman recently told me about something she did... she would take all of their stuff and either burn it or throw it away. She's hold it, look at it, touch it all one last time, and then get rid of it all for her own sense of closure. She didn't want to even hold onto the memories. I'm starting to think that might be a good idea. Why am I holding onto items from the ex boyfriends? I don't need their shirts or other things in my house anymore, right?
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Post by Javier9101983 on May 15, 2017 8:08:48 GMT -5
It's actually smart to give things away, donate, sell, throw out. Depends what they are though. I'd keep the diamond rings.
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Post by REBdomine on May 15, 2017 8:10:51 GMT -5
I guess if you end on bad terms, or if he screws you over, then why would you want to keep any of it anyway?
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Post by Perfectly Imperfect on May 15, 2017 8:18:44 GMT -5
I think it's funny that she calls it a "funeral," but I guess it is the death of a part of your life. If it helps you move on, then do it!!
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Post by Esther on May 15, 2017 8:19:05 GMT -5
Do you guys think I'm crazy for wanting to keep the stuff?
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Post by Perfectly Imperfect on May 15, 2017 8:19:28 GMT -5
Do you guys think I'm crazy for wanting to keep the stuff? Why do you want to keep things that will remind you of people who treated you badly? |
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Post by Esther on May 15, 2017 12:00:15 GMT -5
Do you guys think I'm crazy for wanting to keep the stuff? Why do you want to keep things that will remind you of people who treated you badly? I don't want to get rid of them completely. We had good times too. |
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Post by Perfectly Imperfect on May 15, 2017 12:00:47 GMT -5
Why do you want to keep things that will remind you of people who treated you badly? I don't want to get rid of them completely. We had good times too. For me, the idea of ditching someone completely, or walking away completely sounds scary, but it has to be done to allow you to move on. |
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Post by Esther on May 15, 2017 12:01:07 GMT -5
I know you're all right. She's right too. But burning their stuff seems to juvinile.
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Post by Perfectly Imperfect on May 15, 2017 12:01:31 GMT -5
I know you're all right. She's right too. But burning their stuff seems to juvinile. Depends what it is. If you have their clothing and CDs or something other people can use, then donate all of it. |
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Post by Hungry Hungry Hippo on May 15, 2017 12:06:12 GMT -5
Calling it a "funeral" is actually kinda funny. I wouldn't save their clothing. Maybe gifts if they were nice or valuable or won't make you cry. Move on. It will give you closure to get rid of their things.
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Post by lucy hanson on May 15, 2017 18:34:52 GMT -5
Definitely don't keep their stuff and don't keep them on the mind. They aren't work remembering if things ended badly.
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