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Post by purplecoconut on Mar 19, 2015 5:58:35 GMT -5
Serious question. I have family that only causes pain and suffering. Family dinners are a nightmare!
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Post by Prez Smith on Mar 19, 2015 5:58:50 GMT -5
Do you live with them?
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Post by purplecoconut on Mar 19, 2015 5:59:06 GMT -5
No. It's holiday dinners and whenever they start text wars.
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Post by Kis on Mar 19, 2015 23:43:50 GMT -5
No. It's holiday dinners and whenever they start text wars. Is it possible to just not participate? |
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Post by SKINI'mIN on Mar 20, 2015 5:56:52 GMT -5
I would avoid them. You're an adult. No reason to go.
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Post by xea989 on Mar 20, 2015 5:57:04 GMT -5
Stay away from people who cause you stress
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Post by Steven on Mar 20, 2015 5:57:17 GMT -5
I don't go to most family events anymore because of this.
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Post by SKINI'mIN on Mar 20, 2015 5:57:37 GMT -5
I get what you are saying purple, but if you are like me, I think a part of you wants to see them and you just wish they'd behave
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Post by xea989 on Mar 20, 2015 5:57:50 GMT -5
^We unfortunately can't change people.
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Post by SKINI'mIN on Mar 20, 2015 5:58:04 GMT -5
I know. Even when we have good intentions.
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Post by Steven on Mar 20, 2015 5:58:23 GMT -5
Some people are easier to live without. It's sad when it's family, but it happens.
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Post by Kis on Mar 20, 2015 14:17:31 GMT -5
I get what you are saying purple, but if you are like me, I think a part of you wants to see them and you just wish they'd behave I get this on every level. It can be hard to split up with people even when they're toxic. |
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Post by mynameisfred on Mar 20, 2015 14:37:18 GMT -5
My dad lives with us at the moment, but he's pretty chill.
My mom- only in quantities.
My family as a whole is a drama fest, though as I've grown older I've learned to care less. Last event, my aunt got so hammered she was in my face about kicking my dad out because he was "going to take advantage of me." She was very drunk and saying a lot of very stupid things. Half funny/half embarrassing/half sad...but doesn't run my day anymore when my aunts/mom/uncles fight...I just do my own thing.
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Post by A Dream Is A Wish (Old) on Mar 20, 2015 18:42:28 GMT -5
To be honest, I handle it by going to therapy. And it does help a lot. Even though I am the only one in therapy, my therapist has given me some suggestions that have helped me get my family to "behave" better. It's difficult and it doesn't change them exactly, but there are less fights than there used to be.
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Post by Shadow on Mar 20, 2015 21:31:19 GMT -5
Serious question. I have family that only causes pain and suffering. Family dinners are a nightmare! Family for me is a lot like a spouse. You take the good with the bad and continually hope the bad will be in your absence.  |
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