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Post by Corey Lorenzo on Nov 7, 2014 22:21:11 GMT -5
Yeah. Was just throwing it out there in general. I lost mine at 18. Kinda regret who it was with though.
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Post by mynameisfred on Nov 7, 2014 22:23:09 GMT -5
Wasn't it mostly for "religious" reasons back then?
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Post by Corey Lorenzo on Nov 7, 2014 22:24:14 GMT -5
Wasn't it mostly for "religious" reasons back then? In the time of our parents? Most likely yes. |
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Post by mynameisfred on Nov 7, 2014 22:27:26 GMT -5
Wasn't it mostly for "religious" reasons back then? In the time of our parents? Most likely yes. This is going to sound awful, but I was raised Catholic. In fact my husband and I both were. We're atheists now. Anyway, it makes me think...the way to take over the world with the catholic religion. Step 1. Don't have sex till your married. Step 2. Don't use contraceptives. They're bad mkkkkay? Step 3. Don't have abortions. They're bad mkaaay? Step 4. Many more babies to raise to follow our ways. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED |
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Post by calyta on Nov 7, 2014 22:28:24 GMT -5
I believe we first had sex ed type talks in fifth grade. Then we had a health class in junior high with a sex ed portion. And we had another health class sophomore year of high school with sex ed again. I learned quite a bit from each one and looking back what we needed to know at the time. In elementary it was dealing with like what's the difference between boys and girls and hey puberty is coming so get ready. Then in high school in the sex ed portion there was a lot of info on contraceptives, safe sex and etc.
I guess I never even became remotely interested in dating a guy until high school though and since haven't had any dates or boyfriends so... xD;;
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Post by Tim05 on Nov 8, 2014 0:19:26 GMT -5
I wonder if anyone waits until marriage anymore. I don't see how it makes any sense...considering knowledge of sexual compatibility is pretty significant in most relationships. Though I imagine anyone that could abstain like that doesn't find sex all that important in general or doesn't have a very high sex drive. I agree with this... I think waiting until marriage is completely crazy unless you do not value sex as a part of a relationship. There is emotional and sexual compatibility, and those two do not always mix. I'd hate to find out I had married a good friend and felt completely lost and frustrated after already committing to someone |
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Post by A Dream Is A Wish (Old) on Nov 8, 2014 8:22:54 GMT -5
I don't see how it makes any sense...considering knowledge of sexual compatibility is pretty significant in most relationships. Though I imagine anyone that could abstain like that doesn't find sex all that important in general or doesn't have a very high sex drive. I agree with this... I think waiting until marriage is completely crazy unless you do not value sex as a part of a relationship. There is emotional and sexual compatibility, and those two do not always mix. I'd hate to find out I had married a good friend and felt completely lost and frustrated after already committing to someone I used to try to wait until marriage. I've only slept with my husband and no one else and lost my virginity at the age of 24. But we slept together before we were married. I'm glad we did. We had some issues in the very beginning with sexual compatibility, but we fixed them, and it would have sucked to be dealing with that stuff on our honey moon and panicking about whether or not we were compatible in that area. It's better just to know ahead of time whether or not you are compatible in every area. So I completely agree now, but I was raised to wait. I've known and heard of people who wait to kiss their spouse until marriage. I think that's insane. |
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Post by The Mrs. on Nov 8, 2014 8:34:44 GMT -5
Would bad sex really stop you from marrying the love of your life though?
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Post by Kis on Nov 8, 2014 11:54:33 GMT -5
Would bad sex really stop you from marrying the love of your life though? Maybe it sounds shallow but I really enjoy sex and I feel like if we weren't a good match sexually it might be hard for me to find us compatible otherwise. I mean there's always the chance they could get better at it but... I wouldn't marry someone yet if we hadn't slept together. Personally. |
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Post by mynameisfred on Nov 8, 2014 12:25:52 GMT -5
Would bad sex really stop you from marrying the love of your life though? In my opinion sex makes a relationship. If there is no intimacy/sex, it's really just a friendship. Also, if you have two people that love each other but one has a really high sex drive and the other doesn't...long term, it's probably not going to work out anyway. |
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Post by mynameisfred on Nov 8, 2014 12:26:39 GMT -5
Would bad sex really stop you from marrying the love of your life though? Maybe it sounds shallow but I really enjoy sex and I feel like if we weren't a good match sexually it might be hard for me to find us compatible otherwise. I mean there's always the chance they could get better at it but... I wouldn't marry someone yet if we hadn't slept together. Personally. That doesn't seem shallow to me, but I sort of share your beliefs on that one so maybe I am biased. |
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Post by A Dream Is A Wish (Old) on Nov 8, 2014 12:28:13 GMT -5
Would bad sex really stop you from marrying the love of your life though? The problem is that two people who really like each other's company, but hate having sex with each other are more like friends than husband and wife. I want to add that I will respect people who think they should wait (even for kissing) until marriage because I used to wait when it came to sex. I just think it's wiser to make sure you are compatible in every area so you are less likely to divorce. |
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Post by mynameisfred on Nov 8, 2014 12:31:48 GMT -5
Would bad sex really stop you from marrying the love of your life though? The problem is that two people who really like each other's company, but hate having sex with each other are more like friends than husband and wife. I want to add that I will respect people who think they should wait (even for kissing) until marriage because I used to wait when it came to sex. I just think it's wiser to make sure you are compatible in every area so you are less likely to divorce. I can respect that also. It's more of a culture shock that people can abstain, because I lack the desire to. But anyone who can/chooses to wait...all the props to you. I just think those people choose a potentially more difficult path by waiting, but if it works it works. |
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Post by Tim05 on Nov 8, 2014 14:10:20 GMT -5
Would bad sex really stop you from marrying the love of your life though? Yes, for me it would. Because I imagine it would lead to a very stressful and poor marriage eventually. People need to be on at least the same page sexually for a marriage to work in my opinion. I don't think it makes a person shallow either way as long as you're honest about it. I had one girl I went on a couple dates with tell me straight up she was waiting a long while to have sex with any guy she was with. I told her I didn't share her view. We're still friends and still talk occasionally, no hard feelings either way. Just different. And I'm glad we found out early. |
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