Long Distance Relationships

[Tim05]

Sept 18, 2024 19:08:05 GMT -5 redcanadahat said:

Is it worth investing time and emotions into a relationship like this? I know that many long-distance relationships can thrive and even lead to something more permanent, but they can also end in heartache. How can I determine if this is worth pursuing?

I think with this part, you have to recognize that the vast majority of any romantic relationships eventually end in heartache. That is the risk you are always going to take - people date, fall in and out of love, and change over time.

A big piece that you both have to ask yourselves is how much you value and crave physical effection. Not all long distance relationships are the same, if you're 200 miles from each other, it's a lot easier to see each other monthly, weekly, whatever to satisfy those urges. If both of you are low on the need for physical contact, it can definitely work.

Either way, I'd take the risk and go for it. If it ends up not working out, at least you tried, and you had some good times, good memories, and I'm sure would learn from the experience.

[Skittles Rainbow]

I think you take the risk and go for it. He might be the love of your life.

[Creative]

Wishing you happiness with him.

[mynameisfred]

I think it seriously depends on the person but for me it was really isolating. I’ve technically moved for the benefit a relationship twice now. The first time we were still about three hours away. It became really easy for me to feel disconnected and alone and I inevitably ended the relationship to peruse a different one.

That was my personal experience and it doesn’t mean you won’t have a different outcome. If it’s worth it to you, go for it. Do you know/believe the guy has similar feelings for you? Do you know what each other look like? Already know there’s a physical attraction there?

[redcanadahat]

mynameisfred,
We do video calls. There's physical attraction, at least from me to him. I didn't ask him if he thinks I'm hot.

[purplecoconut]

Are you technically dating or not?

[redcanadahat]

If things need a label, we're just friends.

[purplecoconut]

At the very least, you should at leat be dating online before you move to another country or even consider it.

[redcanadahat]

Yes I know. It's a complicated friendship/relationship.

[purplecoconut]

So he has feelings for you or he doesn't?

[redcanadahat]

You know, the more I think about it, the less I think it's compltely mutual.

[madworld42]

If you aren't technically dating yet, you should wait until it gets to that point, if it gets to that point.