Adult Crushes

[Skittles Rainbow]

How do you deal with crushes as an adult? I mean, I'm not elderly or anything. Nowhere near it. I'm not married. Some of my friends are. Any time I develop a crush, the guy or girl is already married. So, I can't win and then my only option is to "get over it" because they're married.

[Belle]

That sounds tough! Adult crushes can be complicated, especially when they’re aimed at someone who is already in a committed relationship. It's perfectly normal to feel drawn to someone, but it's also healthy to recognize when to let go. Have you found any effective strategies to navigate these feelings?

[Skittles Rainbow]

No I'm just sad most of them time when I know thy won't love me back.

[boots]

I totally get where you're coming from. One way to deal with crushes is to shift your focus back to yourself and what you want in a partner. Maybe try to channel that energy into meeting new people who are available? Building friendships can sometimes lead to unexpected connections

[Ventman]

It can be frustrating when you develop feelings for someone who's not available. It might help to remind yourself of the importance of respecting their relationship. It's natural to have crushes, but prioritizing your own emotional well-being is key. Have you considered exploring new social circles where there are single people?

[Ja(v)ie]

I hear you! It can feel like a losing game when your crush is already taken. Perhaps viewing it as a chance to appreciate qualities in people rather than being overly attached to the idea will help? Remember, crushes are just temporary feelings and can often lead to seeking out relationships with people who are available. You know?

[ladybre]

It's completely normal to have crushes, even as an adult. Attraction is a natural human experience! It can be frustrating, especially when they're already taken, but try not to judge yourself for feeling that way. Just acknowledging those feelings can help. It can remind you of what you find attractive in others, which is useful when you're looking for someone available.

[Mr. White]

When you're too focused on crushes that can't go anywhere, it might help to shift your attention to yourself. Engaging in activities you love or picking up new hobbies can lead to meeting new people, including potential partners who are actually available. Plus, working on yourself always boosts your confidence and might help you handle future crushes better. We're here for you if you want to vent.

[Perfectly Imperfect]

When you find yourself crushing on someone who isn't available, it could be helpful to set some emotional boundaries. Acknowledge the crush, but also remind yourself why pursuing it isn't a good idea. Respecting their relationship is important, and diverting your attention to friendships and connections with those who are available can make things easier. What do you think about that? Doable? Possible?

[Proton Potato]

I still get them but ignore them until they fade

[prabhudesai]

Can happen a lot before you are married

Sometimes even after

[Leseratte123]

I don't have any advice, but I understand

[Phantom Phreak]

Think about why you’re drawn to these people, it could reveal a lot about what traits you value in partners.

[God is Love]

If you feel comfortable, chatting with a trusted friend about your crush can really help. But you'd have to let out the details of your feelings. Not necessarily who it is.

[Angela Moore]

They still happen to me too.