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Post by Chris Johnson on Jan 8, 2017 7:29:49 GMT -5
So remember the experiece in the mall I posted about? Well... being banned from said store is now convincing me that I'm a horrible person and a thief.... even though I'm not. I'm registering for an offendder's course. I hope it helps me feel better. I guess this fits under my resolution to be a better person. Maybe it'll assess if I have any other mental problems I should work on.
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Post by Ʈiffanƴ on Jan 8, 2017 7:30:38 GMT -5
I feel like this whole mishap is affecting you very very badly. This was 3 weeks ago right? If you paid the restitution and the cops weren't called, you should be done. If you didn't shoplift, then there's nothing to improve in that aspect.
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Post by Chris Johnson on Jan 8, 2017 7:57:15 GMT -5
It has. I'm obsessing over getting better this year.
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Post by Penny & Me on Jan 8, 2017 7:57:34 GMT -5
Well only YOU know if you need this course. If you feel you need it, then we will all support you.
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Post by Chris Johnson on Jan 8, 2017 7:57:54 GMT -5
I don't know. I'm not a criminal, but I don't see how it can hurt.
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Post by Penny & Me on Jan 8, 2017 7:58:12 GMT -5
It seems pretty damaging if you are convincing yourself that you need it to be a better person.
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Post by Chris Johnson on Jan 8, 2017 7:58:29 GMT -5
It's only $50 and maybe I can use the certificate to try to get the ban lifted.
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Post by Penny & Me on Jan 8, 2017 7:58:39 GMT -5
Like I said, you have our support and we wish you luck.
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Post by Chris Johnson on Jan 8, 2017 7:58:47 GMT -5
That means a lot to me.
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Post by Great Divide on Jan 8, 2017 8:33:38 GMT -5
If you feel it'll clear your mind, then go for it.
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Post by Something Loud on Jan 8, 2017 10:55:43 GMT -5
You have my support.
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Post by Tragic Symphony on Jan 8, 2017 15:27:30 GMT -5
Hugs and happy thoughts.
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Post by Crazy Crow on Jan 8, 2017 18:14:44 GMT -5
I hope it helps get this off your mind. You're already a good guy.
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Post by A Dream Is A Wish (Old) on Jan 12, 2017 12:35:52 GMT -5
I think if you can get a ban lifted, that's a great thing, BUT...
Because of how I was raised, I've struggled with having too much guilt a lot in my life and I worry about you. You're being way too hard on yourself. There's nothing wrong with trying to be a better person, but you're already a great person and you have to try to believe and embrace that.
It's not possible to always predict the future and how certain decisions will lead to certain consequences. The world is not fair and a lot of people get punished who did nothing wrong.
It's really hard, when a bunch of people have been critical of you and said you were a bad person not to believe it. I've been guilted so badly before that my mind has fabricated memories, where I "remember" doing bad things that I never actually did when people accuse me of doing bad things.
And I don't want you to go down that path.
I want you to accept yourself, to start thinking that even though you aren't perfect that you're still pretty great, and to accept it that other people will sometimes blame you for things and hate you and there's nothing you can do to change or control it. But that's okay because you know the truth in your heart.
I know it's a lot easier said than done, but I am worried taking this course will make you feel further guilty and send you in the wrong direction.
Of course, I will support whatever you decide to do though.
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Post by Hungry Hungry Hippo on Jan 12, 2017 13:28:33 GMT -5
I think if you can get a ban lifted, that's a great thing, BUT... Because of how I was raised, I've struggled with having too much guilt a lot in my life and I worry about you. You're being way too hard on yourself. There's nothing wrong with trying to be a better person, but you're already a great person and you have to try to believe and embrace that. It's not possible to always predict the future and how certain decisions will lead to certain consequences. The world is not fair and a lot of people get punished who did nothing wrong. It's really hard, when a bunch of people have been critical of you and said you were a bad person not to believe it. I've been guilted so badly before that my mind has fabricated memories, where I "remember" doing bad things that I never actually did when people accuse me of doing bad things. And I don't want you to go down that path. I want you to accept yourself, to start thinking that even though you aren't perfect that you're still pretty great, and to accept it that other people will sometimes blame you for things and hate you and there's nothing you can do to change or control it. But that's okay because you know the truth in your heart. I know it's a lot easier said than done, but I am worried taking this course will make you feel further guilty and send you in the wrong direction. Of course, I will support whatever you decide to do though. amen. I think we all feel the same. If there's guilt, let it out and we'll try to help. We'll support him whether or not he wants to go to this klepto course. IMO, I'd stay away from the store and not even focus on the ban, but that's just me. |
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